Thanks to Adriana from The Hillscene for the lovely profile in the current Summer issue.
Miranda Kerr – It’s Not Her, It’s Us
First published in Onya Magazine on December 1st, 2011.
Over the past couple of days, Miranda Kerr’s image, and our perception of her, has been questioned online. An article published in New York Magazine has spurred on a couple of other articles, suggesting and finger-pointing accusations at Miranda Kerr.
So we’re clear, this is not one of those articles. I will not link to them – if you’d like to read them, may I suggest tracking them down yourself.
The general gist of them is that Miranda Kerr is a vacuous, hypocritical idiot, one that is deceiving us.
If Miranda Kerr is lying to us, it doesn’t faze me. Because even if she’s a ball of lies, her faux-message is better than so many true and honest ones presented by models and celebrities alike.
Miranda Kerr is a wife, mother, model and businesswoman advocating a healthy, well-balanced lifestyle. She’s a daughter and a sister, with a wholesome image.
My question is: what’s the problem with that?
I’ve not seen a photograph of Miranda Kerr falling out of a cab at 3am, high off her head. I’ve not seen one picture of her sans panties dancing on a podium at a nightclub with the remnants of coke lining her nostrils.
I’ve not seen her drunk behind the wheel of a car, or being abusive, or advocating bitchiness or sensationalist rubbish.
If the biggest problem we have with Miranda Kerr is that she is promoting self-love, a healthy body image and positive thinking, with some family values thrown in, then we really do have a problem.
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Delicious Ambiguity. I Get It.
I Work From Home. It’s Not That Weird.
I work from home.
The assumptions and connotations associated with that are countless. To set the record straight, here’s what it doesn’t mean: that I’m lazy, antisocial, unqualified, a lady of leisure or a daytime TV watcher.
Working from home wasn’t a distinct choice I made but simply a matter of circumstance – I was a freelance writer who got a job as an Editor of a magazine based in Sydney – one that required me to stay in Melbourne to attend events, meetings etc. This happened at the same time the online media and digital world started to boom, and working from home made perfect sense.
I often get asked if I get lonely, bored or unmotivated.
No, no and no.
I’ve never had a problem with motivation or discipline (of which you need both to work from home). And if you love what you do, then doing it shouldn’t be a problem. If anything, the one thing I have struggled with is switching off. Learning when to put an end to the working day. Not being tempted to answer that late email.
I do not get lonely or stir-crazy – social media, the telephone and Skype all mean I have constant contact with colleagues. In fact, I’m convinced I communicate more effectively, openly and frequently with colleagues that what would occur if I was in an office with them. I know many people that don’t communicate with colleagues two cubicles away and employees that only speak to their boss once every third day. I know exactly where my colleagues are and what they are working on in different states across Australia. I think it’s the distance that results in putting extra effort into communicating.
I’ve been working from home for a few years now, and it has only been in the last year that I’ve developed a strong routine that works for me.
I usually wake somewhere between 6am and 7am. Then, it’s a cup of tea, quick check on Twitter and Facebook, catch up on the morning news, walk the dog, have breakfast, a coffee, a shower and do any housework, washing etc. that needs to be done. My cut off for all of the above is 9am. It doesn’t matter if I’m halfway through something else, or haven’t got around to doing everything I wanted to, when 9am comes I switch off from ‘being home mode’, and enter ‘work mode’. I jump in front of the computer and work, work, work.
Somewhere between 12pm and 1pm, I stop. Have lunch. Maybe go to the post office, if required. Maybe hit the supermarket. Maybe go for a run. Take the dog for another walk. Chat to some friends. Read a magazine, or continue with a book. I never take more than an hour for ‘lunch’ – and it doesn’t matter what I do in that time, all that matters is that it’s not work.
After ‘lunch’, it’s back into the work – whatever that may be and whatever that requires (no two days are the same). I try to knock off from work somewhere between 5pm and 6pm.
I find that, when I am working, it’s without distractions and I get so much done.
Of course, there are variations on the above. If I have meetings, then I work around those. If I have an event on in the CBD, then I may finish up for the day at 4pm.
What I am thankful for when it comes to working from home is the flexibility – as long as I get my work done, it doesn’t really matter what timeframe that’s in or what I’m wearing behind my desk.
What I have learnt, however, is that a routine, much like one I’d have if I physically went into an office building each day, is the most effective way for me to work.
The routine above is a far cry from what I used to do – roll straight out of bed, jump in front of the computer and start work. Then look up and realise hours had passed and I was still in my onesie.
I stick to the routine above because it works for me. I need to set timeframes. I need to get dressed properly. I need my desk and home office to feel like one. I need that distinction between work and home.
Sure, it is a luxury not having to battle with a daily commute or share coffee mugs with co-workers, but it’s also taken me – and those around me – a while to figure out how to best make working from home work for me.
Some friends used to think I could dash off for a long lunch or half a day of shopping because I was home – something I was guilty of doing in the past. But I can’t afford – not with my workload – to be losing precious working hours on a weekday shopping or lunching.
Some friends still don’t get it. Often their idea of what I do is so far removed to what I actually do it’s hilarious.
The reality is, I get my job done.
Do you work from home? What’s your routine like? Do you work outside of 9am – 5pm hours? What’s the funniest assumption someone has made about your ‘not-the-norm’ working life?
Someone You Wanted To Make Proud
It’s been over two months since my Aunty and Godmother, Julie, passed away.
She was an incredible woman.
Strong.
Honest.
Proud.
Hard working.
Clever.
Stubborn.
Generous.
Headstrong.
Selfless.
Vivacious.
She had a presence about her; you always knew when she was in the room.
She was someone you wanted to make proud.
My Aunty was the eldest of eight children and she was every bit the boss and ringleader that you could imagine the eldest of eight would be. She was a big sister to her only one, my mother, and six brothers. She always had her finger on the family pulse, and she never forgot a thing – not a birthday or a special occasion.
I remember when I was young, I would lovingly joke with my sister and cousins and call her the Queen. Not because she acted like one, but because she was honestly so noble and so well put together – in everything from her appearance to demeanour – that she really seemed like one to me.
Since my Aunty’s passing, a few things have surprised me, like; how much you can miss someone that you didn’t even speak to every day or see every week.
Like; how much of a gaping hole and aching silence can be left by one person removed from a large and boisterous family.
And how things, material objects, mean more than the matter they’re made of when they were given to you by someone you loved.
I can’t turn my head in my home without seeing something my Aunty gave me. Teacups, of which I have hundreds. Literally. Gorgeous trinkets and collectable antiques. The garter I wore on my wedding day, which I’m so glad I chose to keep. A fly squatter, of all things. None of them are boring or generic, and she wasn’t either.
I learnt so many things from her, including;
That tea always tastes nicer out of a real china cup; wine and champagne always taste better out of a crystal glass.
To be generous, because you don’t take anything with you.
That you can’t buy style.
To always use the good cutlery.
To develop a keen hawk-eye.
That family comes first.
That any day is a good day to spoil yourself.
That it’s all in the small details.
To always take advantage of a good bargain.
That no summer fruit platter is complete without cherries.
I have learnt that I was lucky to have an Aunty and Godmother like her. That not everyone gets one.
That, in turn, I am lucky to be an Aunty to a beautiful niece. A niece I think of when I buy something nice or do something great. A niece I want to share with, spoil, teach, and one day buy teacups for.
That I understand being an Aunty can swell your heart with so much pride you feel like it might burst.
And that maybe, I did that for her.
A Few Things I’ve Learned, Continued.
- Never let fear hold you back from participating in life.
- Some people wonder where strength comes from. Strength comes from within; where you don’t even really know how much of it you have until it’s time to use it.
- Patience really is a virtue.
- You don’t need to ‘find’ yourself. No matter what the books or experts or gurus say. Lose yourself. Often.
- It’s always better to be too much than not enough.
- Anger can be constructive. Used wisely, it can spur you on to do better, and be better. The world has allowed terrible situations to develop because it has not been angry enough. Anger can also be incredibly destructive. Hold on to anger for too long, and you’ll soon develop a chunk, not a chip, on your shoulder.
- You always have enough time, when something is worthy of it.
- The world owes you nothing. Not one single thing. Don’t act like it does.
- You always have enough love, when someone is worthy of it.
- You can’t control everything.
- There is good in the world – real, honest, lovely good.
- You don’t have to chase everything in life. Some things will come to you. Let them.
- Un-waivering self-belief will get you through anything. Never stop believing in yourself. Never.
Losing My NaNoWriMo…
This November, I signed up to participate in NaNoWriMo – National Novel Writing Month.
The premise?
Write a 50,000 word novel in the 30 days of November.
It doesn’t have to be brilliant, it doesn’t have to be perfect; it’s about quantity, not quality. The act of writing and getting the words out there.
I’ve never had a huge urge to write a novel. I’ve never even attempted one. I’ve always been more focused on articles, or feature stories, or opinion pieces. Or starting magazines.
Novels are scary. They are big and require serious literary commitment. All that time, on the one subject. They involve creating characters. And stories. Plot.
I’ve never created an outline for anything. Not an essay or a business plan, let alone a novel. I don’t map things out.
So, what better way to get over all of that, to conquer those fears, than to pledge to write a novel, what will essentially be my first novel, or attempt at one, in 26 days*.
I signed up to NaNoWriMo because I want the challenge. I want to know what it is like – even a hint of what it is like – to work on something that doesn’t end after a few pages. And writing a novel in a month is a good timeframe for a commitment-phobic writer like myself**.
At the end of this month, I’ll report back and let you know how I went – what my word tally is, along with my verdict on the Sandi Sieger v. Novel Writing trial***.
*I haven’t started yet.
**I don’t even know if this is true, but I’ve always been somewhat afraid of starting a writing project that I knew I couldn’t comfortably complete.
***No, I will not be writing a crime-thriller. Although…
A Good Daily Reminder…
Chasing Aphrodite Profile
Thanks to the team over at Chasing Aphrodite for featuring me in their ‘Stuff That I Love’ section a couple of weeks ago.
You can read all about what I’m seeking and chasing here.
Going Gaga for The Classics
Growing up, our house was always filled with music. The vinyl was constantly spinning on the record player, my dad was constantly singing, and 6 o’clock rock was my favourite hour on a Saturday night. I grew up on a hearty diet of the classics; Dean Martin, Frank Sinatra, Elvis, Little Richard, Ella Fitzgerald, Louis Armstrong, Nat King Cole, Linda Ronstadt, Engelbert Humperdinck…I could go on.
That’s why, this morning, when I saw this, I swooned.
Tony Bennett, and Lady Gaga, killing it. And hopefully, inspiring and educating a whole new generation on the classics.





