I realised something yesterday, something I hadn’t connected other dots to yet, a thought I hadn’t pondered;
Every single unhappy person I know never does anything for anyone.
They might think they do. They might believe they do. But they don’t.
Some people believe they are a good friend, simply because they do the basic 101 friends are supposed to. Some people think they’re wonderful because they’re commendable citizens who do the ‘right’ thing.
But doing something for someone else isn’t found in the automatic niceties of everyday life; it’s about really doing something, something of worth and value, something that might seem small but means so much more.
Selfish people are miserable. People that only think of themselves are sullen.
Doing things for others provides you with perspective, pride, delight and purpose.
I do a lot of things for other people – I co-run an organisation, Camp Awakenings, that holds camps for Year 9 students in Melbourne and I spend hours, days, months, planning and arranging and organising and chatting and meeting and getting in my car to deliver presentations and source funding, all so me, and my team, can make an impact on the lives of the young people we meet, all so they can walk away from three amazing days with more positivity and hope and happiness and direction than what they began with.
I’d be lying if I said I got nothing out of it.
I walk away from every camp grateful, for the life I have. I leave each camp with hope. I finish each camp with a much bigger, lighter and joyful heart than what I started with. And I leave a smarter person – because, most of the time, those kids teach me more than I think I teach them.
That’s a big thing I do. Not the only thing, but a big thing.
But not everyone needs to run a camp, or feed soup to the homeless, or mindlessly donate $30 a month to (insert charity here).
It’s often the smaller things can make a bigger impact on someone’s life.
Some of the greatest joy there is to be had in life comes from doing things where you stand to gain absolutely nothing, where you’re likely to be left exhausted, out of pocket, and unacknowledged.
And that’s why the very people that need to do that most, will be the very people least likely.
4 thoughts on “If You’re Unhappy And You Know It…”
I find by doing stuff for people makes me happy. Like this morning I managed to retrieve an old muso’s, who had a sroke, songs from a broken computer. He thought he had lost the songs wrote for ‘Litle River Band.’ He was in tears. Afterwards I felt great. And it had filled in a morning, when I probably would have been thinking how life had treated me badly.
Thanks for sharing Bevan. It’s so true – I feel the exact same way whenever I help someone out.
Thanks for being such an amazing role model to us as young writers. We’ve been looking at your style of writing as an example of a blog and have been thinking about your use of language, the visual prompts you give your readers and the topics that you write about. Plus, we think that Leo is utterly gorgeous too!!
Today is International Women’s Day and Ms Spurritt introduced you to us as a young woman who is publishing her writing in electronic forms. We’ve just got new Macbooks this year (we completely understand why you love your Macbook Pro!!) and have just started our own blogging journey. Today, we’ve even used this post as our own inspiration.
7 Pink and Ms Spurritt
Dear Ms Spurrit and 7 Pink,
Thank you so much for your kind comment! I’m so glad that you were able to use the post as inspiration and that you’ve embarked on your own blogging journey. It would be great to see some of your work!
Leo is so gorgeous, he’s an amazing dog.
Thanks so much for reading and keep in touch 🙂